Prioritizing “me” time is something I have always struggled with. I grew up in a big family with divorced parents, four brothers and two step-brothers – There was always something to help with or someone to hang out with, so why spend time alone, right?
I remember when I moved out of my mom’s house at 19 with my ex I hated how quiet it was. I had always been so used to background noise in my life growing up in such a large family, the quietness was definitely a shock to my system.
After several years, I grew to enjoy the quiet life that we had created, but I still didn’t love to spend time alone. I would much prefer to spend my time with the people I loved, whether it was my significant other, my mom, a brother or a friend.
As I have become a mother, and now a single-mother, I am really realizing how important it is that I do prioritize my “me” time and really take advantage of it. I have found that when Brooke is spending some time with her dad, I am spending those few hours preparing for her to come back instead of focusing on doing something simply for myself and my own well-being. Although, along with becoming a mother has come a new emotion when I spend time doing something solely for myself – guilt. If I plan to go for a run, get a pedicure or grab dinner with a friend while my mom offers to watch Brooke I feel an immense amount of guilt spending that time away from her. I don’t want to miss out on any time with my sweet girl, ever.
Lately, I have been thinking a lot about prioritizing my “me” time and doing things with more intent. Instead of aimlessly staring at my phone when I have a few moments to myself, I would rather do something more meaningful with my time. I have been trying to nail down some things that I know I would enjoy doing and that my overall happiness will benefit from doing as well. Two of the main things that I would like to add more of into my life is working out and reading. I can always feel the difference that working out regularly does for my moods and my energy. And not only does reading give me a little “vacation” from reality, but I always feel more alert and as if my brain is re energized when I am using it for more than my daily work routine and scrolling through Instagram. <–Truth.
So how do I go about achieving worthwhile “me” time? Well first, I plan to put my phone away. When I am with Brooke, I want my focus to be 100% on her and nothing else. I think this will eliminate the guilt that I feel when I do spend time away from her so that I can take care of myself, too. Another way to eliminate this guilt is to really take advantage of the time she spends with her father and focus on my needs, instead of what just needs to be done. The laundry and the dishes will always get done, but it’s easy to find an excuse to put your own needs second. I need to make myself a priority.
Setting goals and “rules” will help immensely. At the beginning of each week I will set a goal for how many workouts I will complete – no excuses. I am pretty accountable when I tell myself I am going to do something, so I think this method will work well for me. I think setting the “rule” that the tv goes off at at a certain time so that I can take that time to read will be more of an adjustment, but that is my plan to get more reading in. I will keep you updated on that one!
So that’s it! Here’s to focusing a little bit more on me. I know it will make me a happier, healthier and better momma for Brooke in the long run! Hope you all have a great day!
Tell me, how do you prioritize your “me” time? What are the types of things that you do for yourself? If you are a mother, have/do you ever suffer from “mom guilt”?